Often fertility intervention isn’t successful and you may need time to recover physically and emotionally before thinking about tying over again. Oftentimes if you have built up your hopes and gone through all the tension of treatment it can affect you awfully if it is unsuccessful. Most specialists agree that the body needs time to recuperate, as does the spirit which is why they suggest you wait a few months before trying another intervention.Before you do decide to try further treatments it is worth speaking to a fertility medical specialist to discuss different intervention options and assess if there is anything else you can do to better your chances. Visiting a counselor can also assist you to talk through how you feel.
If you have spontaneously aborted, remember that, just as in any pregnancy, numerous fertilized eggs are lost early on. Under normal circumstances you may just think you were experiencing a late period as opposed to a miscarriage. But when you are having fertility intervention, you’re only too conscious that the embryo transferred to your womb has not implanted and that you have ‘miscarried’.
Sometimes you must decide for yourself when it is time to stop trying to conceive, whether it is through attended conception at a clinic or naturally. You may feel you can no longer afford more treatment, financially or emotionally, or your specialist may tell you that you have little or no chance of conceiving. Nonetheless, you may just view it that enough is enough and it is time to move on and try to get on with living.
Just because you haven’t come through does not mean that you haven’t tried hard enough, or that you have failed as an individual, nevertheless, the decision to stop intervention must be yours. Of course, it need not mean giving up all hope of having children - you may wish to explore the possibility of other choices, such as adopting and fostering. The only decision that matters is the one that you finally make, fits your conditions and your emotions. It’s often useful to talk to a counselor, or to other people who have been in a similar predicament, as you come to the decision about how you can best ‘move on’. Organisations that provide support to couples in these positions have been set up by involved people that want to help others in similar conditions realise what options are available to them.
Remember to take it one step at a time and don’t let dread stop you whether it’s to continue with intervention or not. Never assume though that others, Sometimes even those close to you, will understand precisely what it is you are going though and that if they say anything that’s insensitive, it does not mean they mean to hurt your feelings. It is up to you to determine how to deal with this all too likely situation and not let it get you down because if those individuals really knew how much they may have distressed you they would probably be annoyed with themselves.
